As natural as it may be, it's no good crying over spilt milk. The case of a 14 year old dying seemingly of exposure in Taupo on the weekend tells a sorry tale. I know when I was 14 my parents knew exactly where I was, and the chances of me staying away all night were absolutely nil. In the case of my own children, their chances of staying out all night were also nil. The aunty's response "who knows what 14 year olds get up to?" indicates to me an implicit acknowledgement the parents should have exerted more parental responsibility.